Giving him some time to cool off with help you to avoid the conflict escalating in the heat of the moment. Dont phrase it in a way that makes it the sisters fault. Do you know that feeling of wanting to impress someone new in your life? A twin, a younger sister whos less than a year younger than me and another sibling thats 6 years younger. If you were my daughter, I would tell you to run for the Hills. I didnt know how to break up with him, so I just tried to avoid one-on-one time with him by having other people around constantly. But talking is always a good option first. Or sexual! If that first conversation about spending special time alone goes well, maybe y'all could negotiate and cooperate together on how often you'd like to see the sister. Maybe he has a different love language than yours. Good luck. It feels very awkward and uncomfortable to discuss. When I was single and hung out with my sister and her bf shed never only focus on me or only on him. So rather than waiting around hoping he will come round, ask him straight up how he feels. Better off building a habit of handling things like an adult; than being a child. I see both extremes about equally tbh. Downvote me. Am I being insensitive and insecure? She might even opine on the idea of an open relationship. Would I be right in saying you probably feel like this is something you can't talk to him about because you don't want to seem selfish? are you window dressing ? This. You dont like the idea that your boyfriend is putting someone elses needs above yours. When your boyfriend starts ignoring you, you instantly feel this need to double-text, triple-text, or even send messages until the battery on your phone dies. If youre in the dark about whats going on, send a message like: Is something wrong?. As they say, it takes two to tango. I'd pay more attention to them when they were around, cut him out of conversation unintentionally and sometimes even make harsh jokes at his expense because that's just how my family is with each other but it's hard on a newcomer. I understand thats his sister, and for the aspect of it, it seems that they are very close. Why are you still in it? You shouldnt date guys who are mean to you as a joke. If you get in the way of this time, good chance he will resent you for it. And it doesnt sound like youre happy with the way he treats you, because he marginalize you and dismisses your feelings. My therapist phrased it as no you statements: people dont like being told what theyre doing. Or ask if there is a particular reason why he involves her in everything you two do. ), This reminds me of one of my exes, who was very close to his mother and sister. She is using you for time pass. Now on behalf of the bf, youll probably come off being a bit crazy since its literally his beloved sister. If he is feeling angry and frustrated ignoring you is his way of non-verbally showing you that your actions or words were unacceptable to him. They are SICK. I didnt get to go into a single store. My Boyfriend Gets Mad When I Wear Revealing Clothes (Here's Why). In the end, it's just one of those things in relationships. There's someone out there that will spoil you and be considerate with you AND love his family. I can't even imagine how I would feel. That's a lot of casual disrespect. I'm mostly pointing out its an exaggeration to say it's "weird" he invites his sister with them when she's literally a teenager. We all know that guys will do whatever it takes to avoid drama and confrontation! Rather than prove to him you feel regret, you may be feeding into the cycle. Even if you tell him your feelings, he is just gonna take it the wrong way and think you are jealous and controlling his relationship with his sister. Next time you guys are alone, simply ask him in a nonconfrontational way, I feel like you ignore me when your daughter is around. 28/10/2020 at 12:10 am. Whatever unacceptable behaviour he does is strike one. They most likely arent having a romantic/sexual relationship, but your bf already has a gfhis sister. Like me on Facebook to see more articles like this in your feed. //